As a parent, it is your responsibility to educate your children about safe sex. A large percentage of high school students are sexually active, and it is important that parents communicate with their children on a regular basis to avoid teenage pregnancy and the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases.
Of course, abstinence is the ideal. Unfortunately, you have to talk to your children about more than abstinence because if your child does decide to have sex, you want them to be prepared. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
If your child has high self-esteem and self-respect, then he or she will be better equipped to say no to the pressures to have sex as a teenager. Teach your child to be responsible, and explain that having sex is a major responsibility and it should not be taken lightly. Sex is meant to be something special, shared between two people who love each other very much.
Start talking to your child at an early age about sex, using age-appropriate information. Your child shouldn’t be embarrassed to talk about sex. Don’t make it a taboo subject in your home. Let’s face the facts: whether not you’re talking about it, your child is definitely going to be thinking about it. If you tiptoe around the subject, your child is going to be even more curious to find out what all the hype is about.
You don’t want your child to feel embarrassed to bring up the subjects with you because that will make him or her feel that sex is something to be ashamed of, and that can be psychologically damaging. If your child asks you if you had sex before you were married, and you did, you should be honest. Honesty breeds honesty, and you want your child to be forthcoming with you about his or her personal life.
It might be hard to talk about it with your child, and you may be feeling very uncomfortable – maybe your parents did not openly talk about sex in your household when you were growing up, so you are still plagued with insecurity about the subject – but this is vitally important to their development.
If your child does decide to have sex, they should be informed about safety. Condoms, when used properly, can be highly effective in preventing pregnancy and STDs. You may be mad that your teen has decided to lose his or her virginity, but the last thing you want is for them to be punished for their mistake in the form of an unwanted pregnancy or a terminal illness.
Tell your child that if they decide to have sex, it is imperative to use a condom. Better safe than sorry. You should also show your child how to properly use the condom by demonstrating on a banana – pinching the tip of the condom as you roll it down the length of the banana.
It can feel very awkward to demonstrate such a thing to your child, but if you don’t teach them, who will? If you have a daughter, she should also know the proper way to use a condom, and you should talk to her about birth control options, such as the pill. If your daughter is sexually active, she should be on the pill.
She has to feel comfortable enough to come to you with that request. You can also tell her that if she does decide to become sexually active, and she feels the need to keep that information from you, she should still talk to the family doctor about getting on the birth control pill.
Explain to your child that having sex at a young age is not good idea. They’re not emotionally ready for it. The chances that they will be with the same partner five or ten years from now is very low.
When they are older, and they do finally meet the person they want to marry and spend the rest of their life with, they will wish that they had saved their virginity for this very special person.When they