Getting through an argument successfully can be difficult for many reasons. Sometimes you may not know if you have a chance of winning the argument. In other instances, you may don’t want to anger the person you are disagreeing with because you value them as people. And in all cases, you do not want to look like a fool when the argument is done whether or not you have lost it. Successfully arising from an argument does not necessarily mean that you have to win the argument, but rather maintain your position and dignity when the argument is over.
The primary goal of a person who engages in a dispute is to win and have their point to become the accepted one by the end of the argument. Although it is impossible to guarantee that you will win every debate that you will ever engage in, you can definitely increase your chances by remembering a few steps. Know the reason you are engaging yourself in the argument in the first place and make sure you understand exactly what the argument is about.
In many cases, people engage in discussions that they may not fully understand, or truly not be disagreeing with the person, or simply argue to argue. These will be the cases that you will most likely not arise from successfully. The key to winning any argument is to have a strong frame of mind, and a strong belief in the point that you are discussing.
In order to make a point effectively, many times you will want to have concrete facts that cannot be disputed to support your opinion or position. You will also know what the possible arguments will be that your opponent will make in order to dispute them more effectively. If you can shoot down your opponent’s strongest argument with specific points or facts you will be much closer to winning the argument.
Another key to victoriously emerge from a quarrel is to preserve your dignity. This is mainly achieved by remaining calm, never raising your voice, and most importantly, never ever losing your temper. Once you begin to lose your temper or begin to yell you have started a downhill path to losing the argument. Your points are not listened to or even considered most of the time if you cannot maintain your posture while arguing.
If you are disputing something extremely controversial or important to you, then you should wait a few seconds and calm yourself down if you feel your temper rising. By remaining calm, others will have more incentive to consider your points. You will also seem more intelligent and rational by maintaining your temper and hence your dignity. Lastly, by remaining calm while arguing, you will be less likely to anger the person you are arguing with, and be able to arise from the argument still in the same sort of relationship you started with the person.
In order to decrease the chances of angering your opponent in the argument, there are also a few steps you can follow. Listen to what you opponent has to say. For instance, try to establish how long each person has to dispute their point, or mentally note when you have been talking too long, and allow the other person to have a chance to dispute as well.
Never interrupt your person, simply make a mental or written note of a point you would like to come back to, but always allow a person to finish making a point before jumping in to argue your own. Do not mock or insult the other person in your argument, because by doing this, you have not only deviated from the point of the argument but you have lowered yourself to an undignified and unsophisticated level of disputing with someone.
You must remember that though you may not agree with the person you are arguing you must be tolerant of their opinions and respect what they have to say. If you cannot respect what they have to say, then it will show that you do not respect them, leading most likely to your own demise in the argument.
Some general tips when engaging yourself in an argument will also help your case to know. Many times, people tend to deviate from the main point of an argument when they try to relate a hypothetical or even true situation to the point they are attempting to get across. If you do decide to use these types of situations to make your point, stay away from extremes.
For instance, do not relate animal testing to Hitler’s genocide of the Jewish people. Make points that are effective but easy to understand to allow your listeners to comprehend and contemplate the points you are making. By following these steps you will guarantee that you successfully arise from the argument whether or not you win it in the end.For instance,