Let’s just face it. Dating is no easy task. In fact, sometimes finding that special someone can seem like a lost cause. Why is that when you are ready to settle down there just is not anyone around that you would like to commit to long-term? Or that all the good girls are taken? There are a few things to consider when you are looking for love, and maybe it is not just that you are looking in all the wrong places. The following suggestions might just help you to find a girlfriend that you can really fall in love with.
Consider first, the fact that there are no perfect people or relationships even though it might appear that your buddy has the perfect girl and relationship. Sure, it may seem as though they never argue and they always have fun together, but â€śalwaysâ€ť is not reality. All relationships have their vicissitudes. Rare are the couples who never argue, or get grumpy with one another.
Once you have accepted the fact that perfect relationships do not exist, you need to learn how to handle those rough times. Understanding yourself better will be a great step in the right direction. Think about how you react when you get angry with someone. For example, are you the type of person who just blows up, or do you tend to bottle things in and stew about it for a while? Neither instance is healthy for you or your girlfriend.
Once you have pinpointed your style, then you can work on refining it. When you are angry, it is best not to react immediately. Think about what made you angry and why, and then when you are cooled off, discuss it maturely with your girlfriend. Good communication is very important. In fact, it is a stronghold in almost all successful relationships.
Before you start searching, it is also beneficial to have an idea of what you want in a girlfriend. Would you like her to be athletic or outdoorsy? Does she enjoy watching movies or playing board games on a cold rainy night? Knowing little things like this truly benefits both you and your potential girlfriend.
For example, it is far better to know that you would prefer not to get involved with a woman with children, before you date her for several months, and then break up with her. This more specifically benefits her children because they will not have to go through the pain of missing you.
This does not mean, however, that you cannot make exceptions to what your personal ideal girlfriend would be. Realize that regardless of what you are looking for, there will always be things that make you two different. That is part of what will make your relationship beautiful and unique.
Finally, treat her the way you would want to be treated. No, you do not have to shower her with flowers or buy her chocolate and jewelry all the time. Simply treat her with respect. Truly listen to what she has to say and always be open and honest with her. Sure, it is nice to receive little gifts occasionally, but it is more important to tell her and show her how much you love her every day. There are many things you can do on a daily basis that will tell her. Some couples never leave the house without saying I love you. Others always open doors for their girlfriends and women do appreciate it.
Remember, too, that it is important not to crowd each other out. In the first stage of a relationship, couples are generally very excited to spend time together. However, after a while, the two of you need to give each other space. After all, absence does make the heart grow fonder.
The beautiful thing is that when you keep all of this in mind, and constantly strive to build your relationship, she will be more inclined to work hard for you, too. And that is the kind of girl you can really fall in love with.