We have all gone through it at least once in our lives. We were with somebody who we honestly thought was the one. Here is the one we convinced ourselves we would spend a lifetime with and before we know it, the relationship starts to self-destruct and deteriorate and a break up seems inevitable. Whether you or the other person instigates the breakup, it is difficult to simply let go.
Why wouldn’t it be? We devoted ourselves to that person for a period of time (anywhere from a few months to many years), and, for a while, they were an integral part of our life. After a breakup, it is completely natural to go through boxes of Kleenex and hours of long-distance calls to family and friends, rehashing every single nuance of the relationship to figure out what went wrong. There comes a time, however, where we must pick up the pieces, let go of the past and move on into our own independent future. What are some ways to cheer yourself up and bounce back after a breakup?
- Pamper yourself. When have you ever received a facial, massage, manicure, or pedicure and not had some stress instantly drop away? Take some time out to once again do those little things that you love to do. Maybe your ex hated watching Kung Fu movies, despite the fact that you loved them. Go rent all the Kung Fu movies you can handle and have a movie marathon. Invite other Kung Fu fans over and enjoy yourself. Treat yourself to your favorite meal or restaurant and bring along a friend to enjoy it with you.
- Reacquaint yourself with friends and family. Sometimes when we are part of a couple, we tend to grow a little distant from friends and family. Couples tend to do most things together, so friends and family often get left outside the circle. Call up your friends and, instead of venting about your break up, ask what is going on in their lives. You’ll be surprised to find out how much you may have missed. Go out with your friends and vow to keep them a part of your life. Visit your parents or siblings and let them baby you for a day or two.
- Purge your emotions. It’s okay to let it all out. Rent some of your favorite tearjerkers or listen to some of those sad CDs and allow yourself to cry out loud. Quite a few people like to hold their emotions in so they don’t appear weak. It’s okay to cry, but if you don’t want others to see you, simply purge your emotions alone. Trust me, you will feel much better.
- Limit your interaction with your ex. Sure, if the relationship ended on a semi-amicable note, you may want to keep your ex in your life. As much as you want to, if you find you still have strong feelings for them despite the fact that you two may have been incompatible, limit all interaction with him or her, at least for the time being. Seeing your ex every day will only make it more difficult for you to move on and let go. If you do see your ex on a daily or weekly basis, you may find yourself hoping for a reunion that may not be possible. At least for the first month or two, keep your distance from your ex.
- Stay active and keep yourself busy. You may want to just sit on your couch eating chips and ordering take-out until your apartment is one big messy room of empty bags and containers. Do your best to get out and stay active. If you like exercising, start running or going to workout classes a few times a week. Interested in cooking or pottery? Sign up for a cooking or pottery class. Who knows? You may end up meeting somebody who shares your interests, which would be impossible to do staying at home feeling sorry for yourself.