DON’T NEGLECT YOUR QUALITY TIME
When you are in a relationship, before you live with each other, the time that you spend together is spent interacting and bonding. However, there is a tendency for that quality time to diminish when you live together because you take the time that you have for granted. It seems like you’re together all the time since you live with each other, but it’s not being together that is important, it is the time they spend together bonding with each other that is.
However, quality time is not time spent in front of the television watching Primetime shows. It is not just shuffling through household bills. It is not rushing out the door before work. Just because the two of you share a home or apartment now, that does not mean that you do not need to schedule a time to be together so that your relationship continues to blossom and flourish. It is critical to the success of your relationship that when you move in together you continue to spend time together talking, cuddling, and bonding.
At dinner time, sit down together at the table, not in front of the television. If at all possible, go to bed at the same time so that you can enjoy pillow talk. Take walks together. Leave each other romantic notes. The key is to continually show each other love and attention.
DIVIDE HOUSEHOLD RESPONSIBILITIES
Unless you have the luxury of a maid, the two of you are going to have to get used to divvying up household chores. Do not allow the household responsibilities to become a detriment to your relationship. If one of you is a perfectionist while the other is a slob, then the natural tendency will be for the perfectionist to pick up the slack. However, eventually, the perfectionist half of your couple will get sick of cleaning up after the sloppy half. If both of you are slobs, then you run the risk of living in a very messy home.
If both of you are perfectionists, then you might end up squabbling over how to do certain chores and what the proper way is to organize the home. One way to eliminate bickering over household chores is to set up a system that both of you are comfortable with for cleaning and organizing your place. You might decide that you’ll be responsible for keeping the kitchen and the bathroom clean, and you’re significant other will be responsible for the living room, the bedroom, and the office.
You could also elect to switch on and off for rooms each week. As far as doing the dishes and doing the laundry is concerned, you could alternate days or weeks. If you don’t have a dishwasher, one of you could wash one night while the other dries, and then the next night you can switch it up. You could hang a chore chart on the wall to keep track of everything. Remember, if something isn’t done right on schedule, it is not the end of the world. The goal is not to get so behind that the two of you end up fighting about the cleanliness and order of the house or apartment.
OPEN LINES OF COMMUNICATION
Living together can drastically change your relationship. Sometimes it changes a relationship for the better, and other times, unfortunately, it changes a relationship for the worse. In fact, many couples decide to move in together so that they can determine whether not they are suited for marriage.
Be prepared for the possibility that your relationship could suffer as a result of the move. The two of you might find things very annoying about each other all of a sudden. For some reason, you just can’t stand your significant other anymore. Sometimes it is just the adjustment of living together, and it does not necessarily mean that your relationship is headed for destruction. Sometimes, however, this experience will teach you that the two of you are not meant to be. Look at it this way: you’re better off knowing now than later.
Make sure that the two of you talk to each other about how you’re feeling, especially when you first are living together. If there is something that is bothering you that your mate does, tell him or her. Make sure that your significant other knows that you are open to criticism as well. Keeping the lines of communication open is critical to the success of your relationship.